Compassionate Accountability for Leaders
(ft. Nate Regier)
Season 6 | Episode 4
About the Episode
This episode will challenge everything you thought you knew about conflict, communication, and accountability.
In this episode, Jenny Mitchell sits down with Dr. Nate Regier, founder of Next Element Consulting and author of Compassionate Accountability. Together, they dive into the often-misunderstood space between being nice and being firm—revealing that true leadership doesn’t have to sacrifice kindness for results.
Through candid stories and practical insights, Jenny and Nate explore how leaders can create cultures that honor people as capable, emotionally intelligent contributors, while still addressing behaviour that needs to change.
Get ready to rethink the way you lead—with heart, honesty, and a healthy dose of compassionate accountability.
Key Takeaways
- Compassion and accountability go hand in hand
- Trust and communication are key
- Empowering others matters
- Women leaders need support
Key Moments
- 00:00 - The Intersection of Compassion and Accountability
- 03:00 - Understanding Compassion in Leadership
- 05:51 - The Value of Capability in Teams
- 08:59 - Navigating Non-Consensual Helping
- 11:59 - Setting Boundaries in Leadership
- 14:55 - Addressing Gossip and Drama in the Workplace
- 17:51 - Accountability vs. Responsibility
- 20:59 - Empowering Women in Leadership
- 30:08 - The Importance of Trust in Conflict
Episode 6.4 / Uncut Version
Uncut Challenge: Owning Your Emotions, Thoughts and Behaviours
This Uncut episode explores a powerful shift in leadership: letting others own their experiences. Building on last week’s chat with Nate and inspired by Mel Robbins’ Let Them, we unpack how women leaders often overstep in the name of being helpful—sometimes offering unsolicited help that actually undermines others’ confidence. Nate’s insight around the importance of feeling valuable, capable, and responsible reframes how we support others without taking over.
We dig into the importance of owning your own behaviour rather than trying to control others’. Simple language shifts—like saying “I want you to…” instead of “I need you to…”—can create trust and equality. This episode is a call to lead with self-responsibility, clarity, and compassion in today’s evolving leadership landscape.
Episode Quotes
A phrase I want people to eliminate from their vocabulary is ‘make me feel.’ It may seem subtle, but every time you say, ‘She triggered me,’ ‘That stresses me out,’ all you’re saying is that the world is in charge of your feelings. Take back control of your emotions —they’re yours.”
– Nate Regier